It was suggested to me to add a page to assist newcomers to DAL obtain a small insight  into what might be expected, basic courtesy and pitfalls to avoid. This is only a stab at that, and only one persons opinion, so feel free to continue if you are curious.

This is just a very basic attempt to suggest some expected and common ways to act, to better enjoy your first experience at DAL (or any similar Private Community Play Party). Common sense and proper etiquette may greatly assist in meeting new people, and enjoying this or any other similar event.

Start with the easy things like NEVER touch another's property (persons, toys, clothes). Based on different kink relationships and comfort levels, it can also be a good idea to  ask before giving a hug. Some couples might have a small or even a large dose of TPE (Total Power Exchange) in their relationship; so hugging another's sub might unknowingly be offensive.

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Never to "assume" something is always the safest bet. Common courtesy and respect go along way in this, as in any other community.

DAL is not, and never has been a for-profit venture. I operate with the intention of always breaking even. Extras you will see pumped back into the community or given away as a door prize (free tickets etc.). DAL also frequently gives away tickets to our affiliated events - KNaNO as a Door prize, and  the DSSG Events (to be raffled off for the DSSG charity). DAL also has, and upkeeps a large portion of it's own equipment, with new pieces added as they are afforded. As DAL runs very close to the line, I take a large financial risk since I have to pay whether people show up or not. For this reason, DAL never has, nor ever will  have a refund policy.

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Respect everyone else's kinks, and they will respect yours. You are amongst fellow kinksters who enjoy many of the same things you do.

Expect to see people in wild and amazing Fet Wear,  people naked (legal as DAL is a PRIVATE event) or semi-naked,  Pansexual couples engaging in play and affection,  people cry or laughing, or begging, or screaming,  or even being humiliated.

Expect to see extremely touching, as well as very scary scenes and everything in the middle.

 Whatever you DO see, or think you see, DON'T interfere.

The players are engaging in consensual adult activity and don't need you to rescue them. If you are seriously concerned, chat with a DM. But do not expect a DM to interfere with play, or educate you on every scene.

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Expect NOT to see any sex occurring, do not expect to see or initiate any illegal activity (prostitution, drugs etc.). 

Never interrupt a scene in progress, no matter how curious you might be. As well, as soon as a couple finishes, don't run right up and play 20 questions. Both need their quiet or cool down time. You will see them later in the evening, ask politely then.

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Be friendly, asking questions is always welcome in polite company, but do try to keep out of others private issues.  Asking rather rude or deeply personal questions, or demanding submission or play from others are good ways to be ejected and/or Banned from future DAL's. Remember, one of the House Rules is that you can be ejected for hastling others. As Host - I (Dark Angel) enforce this rule strictly.

Remember DAL is a Private event, not open to the public. As  DAL's Host, I  have the right to set my own rules and enforce them. This means I will error on the side of safety and caution. For example, if 2 people are fighting and causing a commotion, I can and will evict both without a refund or proof as to "who is in the wrong". If someone is bothering you, walk away, tell a DM, do not participate in their bad behavior.

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If you are interested in playing with someone, ask politely, the worst thing they can do is decline. If someone asks you to play, give a polite answer. One suggestion; if you approach a sub, and are told that you need to ask their Dom/Top/Mistress/Master, no matter how uncomfortable you feel, it is polite to do so. Rest assured, the sub is probably under strict orders to report any such requests anyways. You might find asking is all it takes. 

If you arrange to play with someone new (or even someone you have played with before) DEFINITELY make sure they are aware of any medical concerns or odd behavior that might happen. I am sure you would not want your new partner to interrupt your happy floating fun, if they aren't ready for you to act in such a manner. As well, anything new or unexpected should also be mentioned to one of the friendly DM's (we are here to help and assist).

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DM's at DAL have the benefit of being under the very experienced control of Kilted One and Paul (of Paul and pat) as our Chief DMs since we began over 5 years ago.  Due to these very experienced gentlemen; DAL has a reputation for very competent, and very non-intrusive DM's. We are always watching - 4 to 6 people on shift at all times - but we are there to help, assist, and make the night fun and safe. We are not cops, but do not break the House Rules, as they are enforced strictly and fairly.

You can find DAL staff wearing the identifying RED sashes.

If you're in the vicinity of action or watching a scene in progress, keep out of the way and keep quiet. You will have no one to blame for getting the back swing of a flogger or whip if you get too close. If you are playing, kindly watch your swing to keep it in your play area; do not encroach into the space of those next to you.

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If you are waiting to play on a piece of equipment, place your equipment under the sign for "Next Player" (located on the rope in front of each piece of equipment for that purpose). Do not line jump, but be ready to take over the equipment once it becomes free. If you aren't around, the DM will move your equipment out of the way for the next in line to take over.

Never enter the roped off Play area unless it is to a space that is clear and is your turn, you are pre-invited in, or are a DM there only for a specific task.

Should you see something very interesting at DAL, DO NOT begin telling everyone you meet or chat with - who you saw or what they did with whom. You may enjoy gossip, it might even be harmless BUT - You will have broken a DAL House Rule and may find yourself Banned at MY discretion. Naming names to those not attending the same party is forbidden and very bad community etiquette - Each attendee signs a waiver that actually lists this as part of the requirements of attendance.

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Alcohol is available at DAL, but all are expected to remain in control. If you cannot control yourself, you will potentially be banned for a minimum of one DAL. Remember, DAL is a Private Play Party, not a public event, thus Banns are totally at the discretion of the Host.

Lastly, never ever leave your mess for another to clean.

DAL as well as our other affiliated Community events are fun relaxed places to enjoy the night. Meet new people, try new things, enjoy the freedom of your kink safely and with others that share your view on life.

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      Looking forward to enjoying the next event with you all.     

    Yours truly, Dark Angel, Host of DAL